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Beating Misogyny And Dominating In The Technology Industry

Beating Misogyny

In this week’s blog post, I want to touch on the topic of misogyny and how it has manifested itself in my life and my business. I will go over some isolated experiences that have been out of the ordinary and some of the ways I have had to deal with such ignorance. While I was not actively participating in the #metoo movement, I was silently battling to cope with hate crimes against me, my son and my business.

If you are new to my blog, welcome. My name is Tiffany Simpson and I am a blogger here at TiffanySimpson.com and a digital product development strategist. My journey began after my son was diagnosed with autism. It was during this challenge that I taught myself to create computer games and mobile apps to help my son overcome challenges with his speech and social skills. The results were amazing. If you would like to learn more about my journey, please visit my about page.

Today my son, Jayden (who is 10 years old) and I are business partners. We both have our own business developing and selling digital products. He is the creator of The Games Space and an instructor at Coders Fun, where he teaches other children how to create animations and 3D world games.

With the skills I have acquired in helping my son, I have created several educational software and mobile apps. I have created G.A.M.E. Prep (Global Apps for Mobile Examination Prep), where we create computer games and mobile apps to help students prepare for standardized exams. Some of the programs include games to help students prepare for the Belize PSE, CSEC CXC and BJAT Exam. I have also developed the Read With Me Club, The Maths Club and the Speaking Autism program. Coming from the small country of Belize and pioneering the technology industry across the Caribbean came with some unwanted attention.

Tiffany Simpson & Jayden Simpson - Digital Product Development Strategists

Success Brings (Man-Made) Problems

Disclaimer: Some aspects of this narrative have been modified to conceal the identity of persons currently being investigated for unlawful misconduct.

It started some time in 2015. I got a phone call from a guy who needed a mobile app developed for a gambling business he owned. Well at least that was what he wanted me to believe. I did not know him. I only knew of his family and they hold prominent career positions in society.

After a couple of meetings, we decided on a workflow for the mobile app. He asked me how much it would cost to create the app and I told him. He was not able to pay the full deposit, but it was close to the figure I had asked him for.

So I started to create a working demo for the app. Once I had finished, we met once more and he was excited about the job. Then things took a dark turn. He asked me to meet him at a friend’s house (another prominent member of society). In fact, this friend served as an ICT consultant in the UK army. That is neither here, nor there in the mobile app development business. But unknowing to me, I was meeting the second arm of the three musketeers who had appointed themselves the leaders in the tech field and had carefully designed a plot to undermine my credibility and success in the industry.

The atmosphere turned sour when the first musketeer got on the phone with some random computer guy to discuss details that I had shared with him about how the mobile app would function given new details that he added over night. Every other word was “f*cking this” and f*cking that”. And I started to think that he might need to get random computer guy to build his app and leave me out of the equation.

After he got off the phone with random computer guy, I was busy setting up my eCommerce store on eBay. I thought I would use the free time to get some of my own work done. He seemed considerably annoyed that I was not unhinged by what random computer guy said about the workflow I had proposed, as he had him on speaker phone.

Then of course, there was that invitation to meet him at his friend’s house (the second musketeer), whose house was very big and fancy. None of which was my business, but this is how “suggestions” are made by broken men. It often starts off with high praises, followed by degradation, while they flash their financial assets with the hopes that you will start questioning your own self-worth and look to them for constant approval. And of course… security (financial and otherwise)!

I Did Not Qualify

One of the major reasons these men sought me out is because in the eyes of society, I am a good mother to my son. Something these men do not believe genuinely exists. These men have all been abused by women. Whether it was a mother, sister, spouse or ex-girlfriend, they have suffered. Unable to voice their abuse they have learned to use existing social instruments to gain support for their misogyny.

In my case, there were several factors (instruments), which when measured by society’s standards, made it “impossible” for me to qualify as a likely participant in the technology industry. These included, but are not limited to:

  • Being a woman
  • Being a black woman
  • Being a black single mother
  • Being a black single mother raising a son with autism
  • Having no background in the technology field
  • Being completely self taught

Now these are the same people, who would encourage any woman in my position, not be defined by her circumstances. They would stand on their imaginary soap boxes and use their office or portfolio to offer words of encouragement to “women who are marginalized”.  What is funny though, is when you are not defined by those circumstances, you are then deemed a potential fraud. But the kind that threatens them, to the point that they will spare no expense to destroy you. And boy they set out to discover the truth about Tiffany Simpson… or make it up if they had to, but I was about to be “exposed/destroyed”. Well at least that was the intent.

The Mother Complex

It was clear that this was going to be the mother of all attacks. Literally! The first musketeer lives at home with his mom, who verbally abuses him and depends on him to run her errands. However, he is still that guy who would send veiled threats when he cannot have his own way. Then there is the second musketeer, who uses his influence as a UK army vet and impressive portfolio, to garner support from other misogynous males for their hate crimes. After taking a look at the second musketeer’s Facebook wall, it was clear that he did not have the best relationships with the women around him.

They speak of transparency and justice. But what they really do, is spy on you, not in an effort to uncover some truths, but rather to look for gaps where they can setup road blocks to undermine your business and even your health. This is in an effort to direct the narrative of your life, to ensure that they are always right about the people they hate. And maintain support of those who (in most cases are ignorant their true agenda) will continue to carry out their hate crimes. They use existing social prejudices as a way to gain supporters and foot soldiers to carry out their agenda.

After shifting the goal post several times for the project we had decided on, the first musketeer expressed his dissatisfaction with my performance on the project and proceeded to take me to court to re-cap his deposit. I felt somewhat disgruntled, not because of what had happened, but how carefully it was engineered to undermine my credibility. It was a setup from the get go…

I asked my lawyer to drag out the case to give me time to hack into their accounts. It became clear that they were using military techniques to subdue and use the women around them to carry out their crimes. I was not going to be a part of that circle.

After the case had ended, I did not see any of the musketeers. But had a brief run in with a few of their minions. The attacks had subsided for some time, as the musketeers are careful to maintain their distance in an effort to hide their obsession.

One of the things I find most interesting about misogyny is that most women (subconsciously) conform to it and are often times the driving force of the hatred. There is this saying that women are their own worst enemies. But I don’t believe that. These women are simply reflecting the misogynous men in their life. They are ensuring that every other woman suffers in the same way she has. Often times by the same men who attacked and abused them until they broke. Every other woman needs to learn the pain of their success, otherwise it is not real. The behavior lends the idea that promotion can only come from a man. But the truth of “their success” is that it only came after they were broken by that man.

For that reason, the women who stand beside misogynous men are overly protective of these ideologies and maintain them like a religion. This is the life line of their status, less they find themselves being discarded by these men.

Leveraging My Feminine Assets (NO… Not those ones)

One of the things that was very unique about my journey as a tech entrepreneur, is that it stemmed from a solution I had created for my son, who has autism. Once things got a little out of hand, I started to home-school my son. It was one of the best decisions I have made. His curriculum was designed around his needs and talents. His gifts began to grow… and with it, so did business. My son started to create tutorials for children and together we started the Belize Coders Academy in 2018. I used this motherly techniques to quickly penetrate the market as I had no “background” or “experience” otherwise.

But as luck would have it, that did not go well with the musketeers, who had yet to make good on their first attempt to undermine my credibility and unseat me as the pioneer of the technology industry in the Caribbean region. In the eyes of their supporters, they only looked jealous and envious. And that is when things turned deadly.

The Belize Coders Academy came under attack by a group of women. These women were working in desperation to protect their own status and social positioning. Over the months that followed, I have had women poison my food and started a massive smear campaign on Facebook, all in an effort to “maintain” their position beside these men of “power”. I have had to make a lot of adjustments to protect myself and my son. They even tried to poison my son on 3 separate occasions. These woman, of course, are only agents of misogyny. And when they failed in their attempts to undermine my success, I would notice that a close family member of that woman would die a couple days after the failed attack.

Beating Misogyny

I cannot go into too much details at this time about the nature of the abuse endured by many of these same women who are victims of misogyny. But I can tell you that what has been a saving grace in my business was creating a business selling digital products online.

It allows me the freedom to limit my interaction with people and strategize how I would engage them if I needed to. While no one deserves to be treated in this way, it is important that you are able to put something in place, to protect yourself and to minimize lost of life and maintain financial stability.

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Final Thoughts

Thanks for stopping by. I know that misogyny is a very sensitive topic. But for those of you ladies who are currently coping with misogyny and feel the need to share, please let me know in the comments below. Thanks again. Talk to you next week.

Tiffany Simpson

Author Tiffany Simpson

Hi! My name is Tiffany Simpson and I am a Master Life Coach. I met a crossroad in my journey as an entrepreneur, when my son was diagnosed with autism. It was during this challenge that I taught myself to create computer games and mobile apps to help my son develop his speech and academic skills. The results were amazing. You can learn more about my journey at my about page.

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